First, though, it has been a long week.
About a month ago, my dad, who lives in Eugene and some of you have met at tailgates came to Portland and said he needed to meet up ‘important.’ His health has been deteriorating for some time and the doctors had told him he was probably at the 12-18 months range as a prognosis.
Well, then about 10 days ago, he called and said that the doctor had changed his prognosis to significantly more bleak – weeks not months – consequently, my family and I have been working to find ways for everyone to visit. As the only one who lives close, I have been spending my free time driving to Eugene and back every weekend.
My younger brother and his family flew into town last weekend and we had a big family reunion dinner at Mazzi’s – he even asked for our mother, from whom he has been divorced for 45 years, to join us.
Needless to say, been quite busy trying to line up some home health care for him (he is too stubbornly independent to leave his apartment) and get down to help him run errands, etc. Mostly, he has everything worked out and he is doing his part, getting rid of unnecessary paperwork, etc.
Anyway, this is all to say, I am around, lurking. I am still doing the legwork and getting as much information as I can, but I have not been as active here.
In Flock Talk Tomorrow, I borrow some quotes from several sources just looking at the concept of football and how it helps draw together a society – and sometimes how it can tear us apart from inside. Pride and passion can be insidious if we allow them to become so.
EDGE OF FOREVER
Here is my thoughts on this – football is sport; entertainment. Sometimes we take this very seriously; there is a lot of money involved and we care about the sport in a way that can be, at times, unnatural. We dig deep into the lives of teenagers looking to take some pride in something bigger than ourselves. I like this – except when it goes wrong.
Football can be something bigger than ourselves; it can be something worth finding pride and passion, so long as that something bigger is about more than wins and losses and as long as that something bigger is not filled with anger and vitriol at an on-field loss. I don’t get paid for the team to win; nor is that the reason I purchase tickets.
I played the sport through college. I find it an incredibly beautiful sport and one which can bring great value teaching leadership, team work and some valuable life lessons about adversity and fears. I try to remember that there is a bigger purpose to the game than one moment defined by an outcome. There were millions of moments leading up to that one. When I was a player, I wanted to win. That is my competitive nature. As a fan, I love when the team is winning.
I guess the ultimate reality of life’s lone predictable consequence is making me look at the game through a new lens. My dad is where I get the love of athletics. He was the one that introduced me to baseball – a sport in which my career path was destined until I divorced my first wife and abandoned that career to stay close to my young children.
It is that longer lens of the infinite and unknown which makes me reconsider a game I have always loved.